After any good break-up, there are a few essential things that must be done. At least in QT-Land.
For me, one essential is getting out my box set of Sex and the City, sitting down with a delicious martini and watching season after season. For this break up, I specifically chose to start with Season Six … Berger. Ahh Jack Berger, I did love me some him. He made me laugh, he made me smile, he made me frown. In the end, his insecurities got the best of him, methinks. How familiar.
Yet my favorite part, my absolute FAVORITE part is when Big calls Carrie, to ask how things are “with … what’s his name? Hot Dog?” Best.Part.Ever. I think it’s the sarcasm from Big, that oh-so-Big sarcasm that has me grinning time after time. I so enjoy that about Big.
Essential number two is spending some time … not going through this alone. Poor ShaNaNa is probably sick to death of me talking and talking and talking and talking to her about everything. Even when she tries to switch the topic, I can almost seamlessly bring the conversation back around to the break up. Okay, well, maybe not so seamlessly. It’s actually more like ignoring what she’s talking to me about and then talk to her about me some more. *Laugh* Thank the Lord she loves me enough to put up with me on most days. Except when I eat White Castle in her car, then not so much.
Essential number three for me seems to be cleaning. Good Lord my house is SPOTLESS. I’ve cleaned, moved furniture to clean, emptied out closets, reorganized Emilee’s room, reorganized my room, scrubbed everything I can find. I’m not so sure what it is about the cleaning that helps me, but I must admit, it does.
Essential number four – booze. Yep. ‘Nuff said, really. (Don’t worry, CaNook! *Laugh)
Essential number five … Fun. In fact this should probably be essential number two but I’m too lazy to go back and change it now. I need the fun. I crave the fun. I look for the fun. I think for a while there, somewhere along the way in the relationship, I lost my fun. This upsets me. I think it upsets me because it’s so essential to who I am as a person, and somewhere I let that go in what I thought was compromise. I don’t see it that way so much anymore.
And that’s what they call, moving forward I guess. 
Good on you.
Please get together with another dude and then break it off and then come clean my new loft and then my old loft.
Cheers!
-R.
I do enjoy Sex and the City re-runs, even if I’m not going through a breakup.
Sunshine, agreed! They are good any time.
They’re all healthy, if you ask me! Sounds like you’re moving right along. You know, if you ask me, he wasn’t that cute. You could do better in that respect. LMBO… Many hugs!
*BLINK*
Angel! *Laugh* Ouch
He had some very attractive qualities, honestly, Angel. And beauty, my friend, is in the eye of the beholder.
He is a good guy – just has stuff to figure out.
Glad you’re healing, QT.
-R.
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Sex and the City and martini’s are always good for the soul. Cheers to moving on.
That episode of SITC was on this weekend! (Hot Dog) I actually watched about 4 in a row from that season. Good stuff!
Nothing wrong with a little booze, friends and fun! They are as important as air, if ya ask me – post break up, or not.
I realized after my last breakup that I, too, was missing the fun in so many areas. That made it easier to get over him and move on. Oh, and don’t forget what they say (whoever “they” is): The best way to get over someone is to get *under* someone else. Heh. xoxo
I will listen anytime my friend
Yes! These are such good healing things to move forward with (in moderation? LOL). Especially the me time. LOVE the me time. Good for you
Love it, QT! SITC is good ANYTIME! (Same to be said for martinis, fun, spending time with friends and cleaning too… well, ok, I can pass on the cleaning part! Ha!)
Very proud of you for finding you again. It’s tough when we lose ourselves in what we thought would make us happy. You know what? You were pretty damn happy before!
I’m glad you’re nurturing yourself. Surround yourself with all the love in your life. There’s lots of it.
xxoo
Gee, if you’re on a cleaning spree I would soooooo invite you over. I’ll provide the booze!
Gotta nurture (that’s nuture, not self-destruct ) yourself, and not just post-breakup — all the time. And remembering that just because a relationship didn’t work out the way we wanted, we’re still OK.
hugs
All for the sex and the city marathon dude!! Oh Big, he’s such a babe. Whereas Alexander Petrovski is an absolute creep. Hm.