You know what, dating in your thirties? I’ve not been … well, quiet about the fact I think it sucks. I mean, this is the world according to QT so bear with me.
Now, if I meet a man who is my age (over 35), and he hasn’t been married? RED FLAG. If I meet a man and he is my age but divorced, and doesn’t have children? Well, not so much a red flag but ya know, they don’t GET IT like the men that have children do. If I meet a man and he’s divorced and has kids? Great! Typically though, blah blah, it doesn’t work. Or it hasn’t been working in my case. *Laugh*
If I may borrow one of my favorite movie quotes, it’s like I’m too old to be young and I’m to young to be old.
DAMMIT.
And then, you meet someone. And you have all of those giddy feelings. Those feelings that if you could put them in a bottle and sell it? You’d make a gazillion dollars.
And then, you meet someone. And you wonder, is this the one? Will this one be the one?
And then, you meet someone. And you also wonder with a sigh, if he’s not the one, what will he be?
And then, you meet someone. And you think, HEHEHEHEHEHEHHEHEE.
And then, you meet someone. And you pray, Come On God! It’s my freaking turn.
And then, you meet someone. And you do it all over again.
And that my friends, is how I roll.
I think you should go for men in their 20s. No red flags for not being married, (hopefully) less baggage, and (usually) better sex drives.
You’d make a GREAT cougar.
I’m right there with ya, girl.
Look, I’ll make a deal with you.
If you’re not married by age 50, we can get hitched. Okay?
I know I won’t be married by then.
Because that’s how I roll.
-R.
WOOO HOOOOO!! I’m getting married in 13 years!
W A N T
B I G
R I N G!
Define ‘B I G’.
Large, as in size, height, width, or amount.
a whale of a, ample, awash, brimming, bulky, burly, capacious, chock-full, colossal, commodious, considerable, copious, crowded, enormous, extensive, fat, full, gigantic, heavy-duty, heavyweight, hefty, huge, hulking, humongous, husky, immense, jumbo, mammoth, massive, mondo, monster*, oversize, packed, ponderous, prodigious, roomy, sizable, spacious, strapping, stuffed, substantial, super colossal, thundering, tremendous, vast, voluminous, walloping, whopper, whopping
Let’s show the good people what you requested and the ensuing conversation:
QT: Here:
Picture of Ring QT decides she wants when we get married.
RE: What’s going on with that woman’s arm?
Like, her back arm.
Right by her pinky.
It looks like she ripped off a band-aid.
WTF.
QT: EW
RE: RIGHT?
QT: how do you see that when there is a big ASS DIAMOND there?!
RE: It’s jacked up.
QT:: LOL
RE: Yes, I saw the diamond. But, I figured you sent me a picture of a little person wearing a normal sized ring.
QT: I think NOT.
Rotten, rotten Cookie!
oh dear…you two certainly have chemistry.
Yes. We’ve been having a torrid affair for ..what, about 18 months now? Something like that.
We get along quite well in text so when we actually see each other, it’s really just for the sex.
Which we both agree is fantastic.
But for it to work, I’d have to have my ears removed and she’d have to be drunk all the time.
-R.
Yep… QT + RE = QTRE…. cutery? Or something like that.
Hmmm… sounds like cutlery. And that is NOT safe to run with.
How about this, QT?
You meet someone… and you’re like WHATEVER… and then you’re like MAYBE… and then you’re like QUIETLY SWOONING… and then you’re like WOW, WERE THOSE BUTTERFLIES???
You never know, beautiful. You just never know…
I’ve been divorced 10 years, and I know exactly what you mean with this post. That’s why in recent years, I’ve happily taken on lovers, rather than waiting for the right girlfriend. And by lovers, I mean sleeping with the same person for months or even years, without either of you pretending it’s anything more than that.
And then, you meet someone and it’s him.
But until then, it sucks. I hear ya!
*Laugh* Like wooden stakes for vampire children, T! Not safe to run with!
Linda. BUT WHEN? WHEN WHEN WHEN? I’m impatient. PFFFFFFFT.
I hear you QT. I’ve been dating a woman off and on for the last year or so and it’s been tough. She’s 37 and never married (RED FLAG) and while great with kids, doesn’t seem to get the single parent thing. Especially how we need to (and should) drop everything if our child needs us (primarily when the other parent isn’t pulling their weight and you need to fill in even if it’s an inconvenience). Every decision we make starts with our children. Beginning to think that single moms are where it’s at.
Gotta admit though, RQ got you a pretty Rockin’ ring.
Big City Papa,
Single mom’s are so where it’s at.
QT…you’ll know when you know.
In the meantime, keep having drunken sex with RE. That seems to be workin’ out alright for ya.
Dadshouse… I totally get it. Now QTBigAssDiamondRingMama, take the rock and RUN, don’t walk, to the nearest diamond broker, cash it in, and hop a flight to PARIS!!! (You’ll find everything your little QTself desires…)
wow, I am a giant red flag apparently!
However tiny from the picture, MM is a HOT giant red flag!!!! J/K For me, this single parent dating in my thirties is just a waste of time. Therefore, I’m so feeling your post, QT. Recently, I’ve decided to devote my life to charity and volunteering to fill the nurturing void instead of a man. Crazy, but in my heart I don’t think a relationship is what my life was meant for…. wasn’t my plan. But for YOU, I think RE is where it’s at!!!!!!!!!!! LOL. Seriously, you keep trucking. You’re too sweet a catch and have too awesome of a daughter to give up.
Don’t worry. It gets worse in your forties.
Mike, if I didn’t have a daughter, you’d be less of a giant red flag. Does that help?
Jim, Thanks darlin. I feel a whole lot worse now!
For the record? That open sore is actually the woman’s thumb. That is all.
If that’s her thumb, that’s some weird-ass photoshopping nightmare thingie going on.
I am sitting here reading many of you single parents bemoaning the fact that right person has not come along and some of you making peace with the seeming fact that he/she never might.
And I sit here absolutely knowing for a fact that this can be changed. The change work is deep and it takes time and effort, but whom you attract and whether you attract anyone at all can absolutely be changed.
I know singles can be “hardened” sometimes, believing what their experience is the only thing possible. But I just want all of you to know that the relationship you want is not a matter of just dating many, many people until you find the one. And it is not just a matter of time.
The part of you that attracts the wrong people, or is attracted to the wrong people, or does not attract at all needs to be worked on, healed and changed. And that can be done. I help people do that kind of work every day in my coaching practice.
I know. Let’s do a QT Mama Dating Solution Coaching Group. I would love to help all of you get what you want in love.
WOW! Rinatta I love reading your comments, whether it’s here or everywhere else I see you.
Thank you. <3 (that is not balls and a penis, btw)
I'd love to do a group! It'd be like therapy, clearly I'm in need.
Count me in. I could use all the help I could get.
Great!!! I am really feeling good about getting back in the singles game after this. I think I will drive that extra 50 miles next time I am out that way and find out the real story.
Geesh, you and RE are nuts.
Funny… that happens to me at 24!
QT, thank you. And yes, I knew that was not balls and penis, as we have been informed of this on this blog before
Here is the coaching group I promised:
The Single Parents Dating Solutions Coaching Group
http://www.lovecoachblog.com/coaching_group
I am ready to go and would love to take 4 or 6 single parents on a journey to a happily ever after with me.
Oh my goodness, you were serious! *Laugh*
I go read.
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