Comments on: Chemistry and Drunk Dials and Chemistry

By: jenn

jenn — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:38:08 +0000

Great post. I would like all of those (just a little greedy), but I agree that #1 & 4 are the most important to me. Sadly, I’ve found #4 with a guy friend, but I am so not attracted to him in the least. Oh well, I can always use another friend.

By: savoredlife

savoredlife — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 01:49:25 +0000

I too have found ALL of these qualities in my new special someone…only…he’s scared. WTF? *sigh*

By: Canadian Bald Guy

Canadian Bald Guy — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 19:55:49 +0000

I feel kinda guilty because I truly feel right now that I share ALL of those “chemistry qualities” with Sunshine.

I guess I’ve found that ‘rare thing’. It’s a good feeling.

By: Amira

Amira — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 05:37:31 +0000

I like this post. Good capturing of the different kinds of chemistry. To find them all in one person or most of them? You then only *hope* that it really works.

Oh, and my discovery of sexual chemistry? Yeeeeaaaaah. Priceless.

By: Barry

Barry — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 03:46:59 +0000

I agree that 1 and 4 are a must. The best is when someone told me I am just comfortable hanging with you and laying on the sofa watching movies. That works! I also think 2 is important. A good sense of humor will go a long way in a relationship. If she can’t laugh, and be goofy sometimes, it will get boring in a hurry. As far as 3, nice to have, but I have had the most interesting and fun times with people that I have nothing in common with. Great way to try and experience new stuff

By: Besos

Besos — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 04:35:32 +0000

Even though I feel like I should be agreeing that 1 and 4 are the most important, in my past relationships it just hasn’t been that way. I have been in relationships in which, sexual chemistry has been intense, but since we haven’t had much in common the relationship has not worked out. So I guess for me 3 and 4 are the most important. The most important one is definitely 4. It is very important to be with the person you are dating in most settings, and feel very comfortable and welcome. If you don’t then it will take it’s toll on the relationship.

So yeah,great post QT, lots of good stuff to think about

gracias!

By: pisceshanna

pisceshanna — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:10:00 +0000

You are so right. Am I greedy if I want them all in one person? *sigh* dare to dream.

By: T

Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:29:35 +0000

This is a great post. And yeah, sexual chemistry is HUGE in my book too. And comfort. It would be nice to have some things in common but isn’t that what our other friends are for?

Good stuff. And yeah, I think RE plays very well with you.

By: randomesq

randomesq — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:32:16 +0000

Hm. I’ve read Dadshouse’s comment and I agree with him that 1 and 4 are the more important of the four.

While I think many/most people would say that a sense of humor is important, it is true that there are many different outlets to find your guffaws and they may not necessarily be the other person and that may be just fine.

And I think the key to having things in common (and how important that is) is what those things actually are. Like Dadshouse mentioned, I don’t necessarily need to feel like Besos is going to love all (or even most) the activities I do. I like that we enjoy different things and that some of them can be enjoyed together and some apart. The most crucial elements in which to find commonality seem to be (at least for me): the idea of what a relationship is, the values associated with it and how it is expressed. Having said that, I do think that it is important to have activities both people enjoy a lot because it does generate time together. Balance is the key, I suppose.

Man, I sure know how to write a lot and say a little. Just like an attorney. Never use 5 words when 10 will do.

-R.

By: Jillian

Jillian — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:24:05 +0000

I, too, like this breakdown. Good stuff.