I spent my weekend with a wonderful man in Chicago. He is charming, handsome, incredibly sweet and a gentleman. We spent the weekend together, and in the end, parted as friends. As I hope we’ll remain, and it is our plan to remain just that. While we both had a wonderful time together, there was, admittedly on both of our parts, a general spark – the fireworks, if you will – missing.
We talked last night, a good, honest straight to the facts talk. I’m so appreciative of him; in so many ways, And in so many ways, we are both disappointed. Yet in the end, we also both know that we can’t force something that is not there naturally. No matter how much we both want it to be there, and believe me we do, it just can’t be forced. And so a new chapter begins in my Chicago Man story … one of friendship. And for that, I’m thankful.
Chicago Man … it’s been exhilarating, and one day we’ll find it all, both of us. And I hope to give you a hug when you do.
November 19, 2008 at 3:38 am
Oh… I’m sorry. I know all about disappointing weekends…
I’m glad it was a mutual thing but its still sad when you both had such hope.
*sigh* This is WAY familiar.
You sound ok. You’re ok, right?
((hugs))
November 19, 2008 at 5:19 am
Sorry to hear this babes. I must say, I think this is frequently the downfall of Internet or long distance dating. Being apart physically allows one to build up this perfect person in mind, without that distraction of…well…reality.
Sorry again it didn’t work, but I think it’s incredible that you’re both able to talk through it and come to an adult decision. I think too many end up trying to find potential in another person and latch on to that instead I’d moving on and finding the right one (guilty as charged).
Love ya!
November 19, 2008 at 5:21 am
Hm. I’d = of. (typo above). Sometimes the iPhone is smarter than it should be!
November 19, 2008 at 1:55 pm
We’ve talked this out already you and me. You know I’m glad you’re at peace with the outcome.
But I’m still mad I got no pictures.
November 19, 2008 at 2:09 pm
Glad you guys had a good talk and have a good friend from this.
On another note: When you next come to Chicago, we shall cause mass chaos and just not tell Besos about our plan until she has to come bail us out of jail.
Deal?
-R.
November 19, 2008 at 2:14 pm
I like RE’s plans.
and I’m glad you were able to talk like mature adults
November 19, 2008 at 4:00 pm
A tough thing all around. Glad you are both ok with it.
December 1, 2008 at 7:07 pm
RE – I suggest a “back up plan” just in case