In terms of relationships … Are you emotionally available? Or are you emotionally unavailable? Is your sign Open for Business? Or Closed for Business?
In my reading of the bloggy blog world as of late, I have noticed a common theme: Caution.
Do I dare throw it out there? I see this sparking some debate, yet here I go. Have we become so emotionally unavailable that caution is simply a part of who we are? Is it emotional unavailability because we are so scared of being let down (again), hurt (again), of the person not living up to what we expect them to be (again), a fear of the unknown (again) … I could go on and on. Let me quote a favorite fictional character: “Just how dangerous is an open heart?“
I think what fascinates me, is the way everyone approaches dating or relationships with such different perspectives. It’s the actual perspectives of people that I find so interesting. I consistently question the caution of others. I question the emotional unavailability. Some get annoyed by this, others wonder why I question so. And I do so simply because their perspective is just so different than mine, that I want to take the time to understand it. In that regard …
I admit, I’m an eternal optimist. I believe in love. I am the one who places the most emphasis on emotional love as opposed to lust, and I am the one that wants my happily ever after. Which leads me to another word … Hope. I have hope. I want hope. I love the hope. I encourage others to have the hope. Because in the end, when the world says, “Give up,” Hope whispers, “Try one more time”.
After the Big Hurt, as I’ve come to call it, and as you’ll recognize as Dick leaving, I was in the most simple of terms, hopeless. I thought I had nothing left to give anyone. I was drained of it all, especially hope. It was, by far, the biggest hurt I’ve ever had. But it’s true what they say, that time heals all wounds. I suffered, I grieved the loss, I cried and I lost hope.
And then … one day when the world whispered, “Give up,” Hope was there for me. And this time it whispered, “No way in hell”. And this girl was Open for Business.
A – fuckin – men girl.
I completely agree. Sure my heart was broken. And has been before. But I’m sure as hell not.
This girl is open for business too.
I LOVE this post.
*Hugs* T. I’m SO SO SO happy to read this. I almost singled you out as a “Hope -er” with me.
Liz … you’ve given inspiration yourself – to me and to others. I hope you know that. *hugs*
Favorite Quote (stumbled upon in high school) that is taped to my computer:
“Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.”
~ Bertrand Russell
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*hugs* I love you lady.
Maybe one day I’ll take down my “Closed for Business” sign. Reading blogs like QT, Ms Single Mama, Liz and T are all helping take a step in the right direction.
Apparently…and much to my surprise, I’m open for business…but it took a long time for me to take down the ‘closed for renovations’ sign. Thank heavens the renos are done! LOL
I’m cautious. First love tore my hear to pieces and not sure I ever really recovered although there was aologies and forgiveness later. I do believe in love and I do believe it can happen. I suppose I’m open with my friends. But there hasn’t been a lot of options. I think I’m cautious because I know I can love too much
Hmm… this is definitely an interesting post. And making me realize I need therapy. Bad. Lol.
LMM–closed for renovations–hilarious!
Like I told you via IM…
Closed except for weekends.
And then I’m like CostCo and you have to have a membership.
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