Main Dish is a Dish of Crap

UPDATED BELOW.

So.  Today I get a good morning text from Main Dish.  I write back good morning, and we chat for a bit.  Then I get this text:

Ex-Girlfriend is going to call you about the game we went to.  I told her you came but we went with Friend1, Friend2 and Friend3.

Now a bit of info for you.  The girl he is speaking of is the one he told me he broke up with a few months ago.  This past Friday evening, he took me to a Major League Baseball game in my area.  We went alone, together.  He came and picked me up at my house, and dropped me off when the night was over.  We met NO ONE at the game.  We got down there early, had drinks and dinner before the game.  He held my hand the entire time.  And so the story continues …

Me: Ex-Girlfriend?  Are you joking? Why would she care where you and I were if you two are broken up?  And you what, GAVE her my phone number?

And yes, at this point, my phone rings with an unknown number.  I decide not to answer this call and quickly send it to voice mail.  Then I get this text from CrapMan (previously known as Main Dish) …

Well, we are trying to work on things and she found a picture of us online at the game. 

Yes, when we first walked in a photographer stopped us and asked to take our picture.  I believe the picture ended up in the paper or online.  That last text was followed by this one:

I told her you met us down there with SoandSo.  Sorry about this.

So now, I must say.  I’m amazed and just pissed off at the same time.  Granted, I had no plans of a future with this man!  I had no plans with him at all, as a matter of fact.  But … Did he give Ex-Girlfriend MY number because he thinks I’m going to LIE for him? Does CrapMan think I like him enough to LIE to this girl?  You’ve GOT to be JOKING CrapMan!  So … my response to him was this, and please, shield the eyes because I am swearing here.  And dropping some F Bombs, which I have never done in my blog before …

Me: Fuck off CrapMan. Enjoy life with your phone-throwing girlfriend, and tell her not to fucking call me again.  Because if she does?  You can be DAMN sure I’m not lying to her for your pathetic ass.

I said Phone-Throwing girlfriend because rumor has it the girl can’t hold her liquor, got all drunked up one evening at poker, got ticked at CrapMan, and threw her phone at him – hard – and popped him right in the middle of the forehead.  I do not condone throwing anything at anyone, ever.  Although I do appreciate her aim at this moment in time.

And that concludes the story of CrapMan.  I must go home and … Lysol my house. 

However, now I have this girl’s number in my phone.  Is it my job as a woman to tell this other woman that her boyfriend is a lying, cheating CrapMan?   I mean, she did call me.  It’s only POLITE to call someone back, isn’t it?  Also, I have his texts …  I could forward them to her.  Or, I can take the moral high road and do nothing.

 

UPDATE:  Ex-Girlfriend did call me, and I smiled while I answered the phone - she and I had quite the conversation.  Low and behold, she is a single mom as well.  And as soon as I heard that, and told her that I was a single mom as well – we had QUITE the conversation.  Turns out CrapMan has in fact been lying, to both of us, but more sadly, to her.  They have been in relationship for a long time, well over a year and a half.  I gave her every bit of the truth, from the night he spent the night, to the kisses we’ve shared, to everything he’s told me, to the picture in the paper, to every time we’ve seen each other.  I held NOTHING back.  And when the conversation was done?  The Ex-Girlfriend thanked me.  She thanked me.  And I told her, in the most simplest of terms, that I was so very sorry. 

I think I just made a friend.

27 Responses to “Main Dish is a Dish of Crap”

  1. randomesq Says:

    The amount of nerve that guy has is staggering.

    Good riddance.

    Hell, if I take you to a baseball game and we get our photo taken, I’m going to lie to everyone ELSE and say we WERE there together. ;)

    -R.

  2. randomesq Says:

    oh! To answer your question…Honestly, I’d probably wash my hands of it as it sounds like she may not be the most receptive person but who knows since what you know apparently when through his filter and his is obviously clogged with some sh*t.

    But if she does reach out, I’d sure as hell tell her the truth. In fact, maybe I would tell her so that *ss doesn’t keep telling her lies. Who knows.

    Basically, I am NO HELP.

  3. Jane Wonder Says:

    I’d stay out of the middle of that mess. Let them have their karmic retribution all over each other. You keep away and keep your hands clean.

    Besides, she probably wouldn’t believe you anyway.

  4. LetEmBreathe Says:

    Take a step back, take a deep breath and…

    :)

  5. QTMama Says:

    Deep breath and .. LetEmBreathe?

    But of course, what else is there to do, really? :) *hugs baby*

  6. The Wingman Says:

    Wow. Some people have some serious BAWLS. What a tool! I probably would have stayed out of it…but I’m glad to hear ya laid it out for her. *laugh* Pretty funny.

  7. incalculable Says:

    I loved this post! (But sorry to hear of the crapness that both you and the g-friend had to endure.) You I have no doubt will walk away just fine, but I hope the other girl has enough strength & courage to kick him in the pants and be done with it. What a crap-ass thing to do — to both of you!

  8. Red Wine Gums Says:

    A guy like that makes me redouble my efforts to never, ever come anything remotely close to something like him

  9. SingleWorkingMommy Says:

    What the WHAT? Are you kidding me?! I’m proud of everything you did, QTmama. Wow, just wow! The NERVE of some people. What a freakin a$$!

  10. mssinglemama Says:

    Yes. You absolutely rock. You’re getting some major link love in a few minutes here.

    EVERYONE has to read this one. You kick ass.

    XOXO

  11. Ms. Cheevious Says:

    Excellent. I love what you did with an appalling situation and schmuck that caused it. Good for you!

  12. randomesq Says:

    After the Update comment:

    Hell yeah. I asked Besos what she’d do if I called her and asked her to lie to another woman. I think just *asking* her the hypothetical made her eyes cross.

    Really glad you were able to shed light on him – and feel for you both for being the target of his behavior.

    I bet your attitude of strength and of nonacceptance of his behavior helped frame her reaction to him in a way that makes a very big difference.

    -R.

  13. QTMama Says:

    Thank you all. :)

    You know, as I commented in Ms. Single Mama’s house, at first my attitude towards BOTH of them, CrapMan and Ex-Girlfriend, was anger and frustration. I was just ticked off at EVERYTHING.

    And when I answered the phone – I heard her voice. She was scared to call me, so nervous her voice was shaking. And then I felt like CrapWoman. How could I be mad at someone that … had no part in this deception? And the more we talked, the more I told her about him and the lies we discovered together, the more each of our kids interuppted the conversation to ask for juice or snacks, we both discovered something else. We have things in common besides CrapMan. And she has a great sense of humor. I think we are having dinner together this week. *grin* I can never have enough single mom friends!!

    I hope to get an update from her today as to what happened with she and CrapMan.

  14. anonymous Says:

    My ex-hub is much worse than your CrapMan. His ex called me after they broke up to find out what was up with him. (hookers, strippers, you name it, is what’s up with him) He’s an excellent liar, so it takes a while to get past the family man exterior and figure out all is not as it seems. Long story short, the ex, two other exes, and I are all good friends. We thought about having t-shirts made that say, “I survived {Ex’s name here}!”

  15. Philly Says:

    Good for you !!! What a dick he is, and I’m glad you were honest with x-gf, now she can dump his ass.

    #1

  16. OneManThreeKids Says:

    I hate this for you. I really do. It may not mean much; however I want to apologize that a man treated you this way. You deserve better…much better.

    Guys like this need there butt kicked for making it harder for decent sincere guys.

    Big virtual hugs for you.

  17. SingleMomSeeking Says:

    Good for you for rising above it all and befriending this mama… it happened to me, too, once. Same story. I made a great single mom friend that way, too.

  18. T Says:

    WOW! I can’t believe this story!

    You GO! (I wish you could hear me yelling that statement here alone in my house.)

    And how wonderful, you made a new friend. Poor thing. Both of you. Now you can clink glasses together and be glad you’re both done with him.

    Yeah, some men just don’t know how to treat a lady. I just blogged about it too.

  19. Giyen Says:

    Oh god, I just was starting to think about dating again. Run away! Run away!

  20. Sunshine Says:

    You did the right thing… being the other one stinks big time… ((hugs))

  21. SeriouslyKaren Says:

    When my ex started cheating his girlfriend actually did lie to me for him. Three years later, we are divorced, he married her and now she’s the one who is miserable. Did I mention she found out last month he’s cheating on her?

    Karma. Seriously

  22. Single mom in New England Says:

    What an awesome ending to your story – I was really hoping that you would talk to her, just so that she could realize that this guy was a schmuck and she should kick him to the curb. If you hadn’t talked to her, she may have continued to believe his lies…

    Glad you made a friend in the process – us single mamas have to stick together!! That is awesome!

  23. pisceshanna Says:

    It must be asshole month. YE GADS.

  24. April Says:

    Ugh. Been there, done that. The guy was a Pathological Cheater a/k/a Douchebag. He’s now married to someone else but still sends me texts and x-rated pictures from his phone. I wish I could’ve met the Wife…I would’ve warned her.

  25. littlemansmom Says:

    Like you need that CRAP in your life! Good for you for spilling it all…I would have!

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